Wednesday, November 18, 2009


What is domestic violence, who's affected by this, how to deal with it.............has any one ever wondered about these questions?!? I've come to the realization how little i know about this subject!! I personally have dealt with wasn't physical but emotional and even on a minute level it can still effect everyone including the one being hurt!!

"Anyone can experience Domestic Violence the perpetrator can be a partner, ex-partner or family member. It is a pattern of behaviour that controls and dominates the victim and can leave them isolated and humiliated. 1 in 4 women experience domestic violence over their lifetime and 10% of women suffer domestic violence in a given year."1 in 4........yes that said 1 in 4! That means if you're not being abused 1 of your 3 friends down the street is! Do you know who it is? Are you doing anything about it?

Rihanna was recently abused by her boyfriend Chris Brown over a small argument. She never expected it from him & was so in love & that's why she was blinded by the whole thing. When you're in that state and so blinded by it you dont even realize whats going on until it actually happens. She has also reported that "she is now stronger, wiser and most of all, fearless" I know I am, but not all women/men/children end up that way, in some cases it ends in death! Rihanna has been such an inspiration to so many people including myself....she is truely an amazing woman!

Ten Warning Signs of an Abusive relationship:
  • History of discipline problems.
  • Blames you for his/her anger.
  • Serious drug or alcohol use.
  • History of violent behavior.
  • Threatens others regularly.
  • Insults you or calls you names.
  • Trouble controlling feelings like anger.
  • Tells you what to wear, what to do or how to act.
  • Threatens or intimidates you in order to get their way.
  • Prevents you from spending time with friends or family.
Take some time out today & think about those men, women, and children who are being affected by this. You could be the difference in someones life! Take a stand for yourself if you're in this situation! Be the change you wish to see! Be safe, Be strong, just BE!!!


  1. I love this blog.
    My mom and I were just talking about this kind of stuff the other day.
    Sadly it's not just women and children being abused....

    Every 37 seconds a MAN is being abused not only emotionally but physically by a woman.
    I see all the beef that men get when they hit women, but what about when a women hits a man? It double edged sword for me when it comes to this topic...

    I find it very sad when either one happens.

  2. This is really wide spread, something we just don't talk about but it exsists. We all need to be aware

  3. WOW Liz,..I can tell you're pretty passionate about this subject. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I'm glad you've been able to overcome it and teach others about what you've learned through it all. LOVE YOU!!

  4. Liz, amazing insight. Domestic violence is always the responsibility of the person who is the violator. We are all responsible for our behavior...100%...end of story! Now, we all have to I contaminating or contributing to my relationship. We may need to make changes for our relationship to work. But violence has no place in relationships and it can only stop when the perpetrator stops. When we see the damage done in violent relationships, we cannot forget the children. Children see, children do. The violent behavior can be passed from generation to generation. However, with help, the cycle can be broken and life for our children can be different. A couple great books...Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft and How Can I get through to you by Terrence Real. One is about domestic violence, the other is about bridging the intimacy gap between men and women. Thanks for a great "read". Awesome insight. Keep learning and sharing your knowledge.